Reconnecting with Old Friends

7 Jan

It pains me to admit that I was a bully as a kid. Really. I was terrible. I often wonder about the kids I terrorized — mostly boys — and how I impacted their lives. It’s the sort of thing one wonders about, but doesn’t really want to know for fear of what they might learn.

dd2I didn’t just pick on boys. I was mean to some girls, too. There is one, whose name at the time was Diana Kunkoski, I am actually still friends with, believe it or not. We met in second grade. I used to take her into the girls bathroom to torment away from adult eyes. I vividly remember cornering her in the bathroom at one point, literally, telling her if she wouldn’t be my friend, I would keep “beating her up.”

I don’t remember ever hitting her, by the way. Just making her think I was going to hit her.

She and I have had very different paths in life. Her mother married multiple times, so they’d move away for a while and then come back. We spent second and third grade together. Then she moved. She came back during fourth or fifth grade, so we were together again for a while, but then she moved to the state of Washington.

Just before her wedding in 2003.

Just before her wedding in 2003.

We kept in touch through the years. She returned to Baltimore briefly during our teenage years and, for better or worse, attended the same high school as me during tenth grade. After that, it was back to Washington. She ended up attending and graduating from Brigham Young University with a degree in broadcast journalism. She worked down south for a while then returned to Baltimore for good.

She dated off and on for a while, but always seemed to hook up with some of the oddest guys. In all honesty, we never thought she’d get married. But she ended up marrying a wonderful man — Brian — and having two kids. She’s the first person I knew to have a Match.com success. And Brian is a great guy. Mike and I actually attended their wedding in Charleston, South Carolina.

I tried photographing her kids back in 2008, when they were about 3 and 6, but they were feeling very cooperative and would NOT sit for a pose. So we let them do goofy stuff. That’s when I captured this shot of them, which is my favorite from that day.

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Chris and Scott

Since we’re at different stages in our lives, we don’t see much of each other. But we do still keep in touch.

Early last year, she told me she and Brian had bought an investment property in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware. She asked if I’d like to join her there for a visit. Of course, I agreed. She said it would have to be in the off season, as the house would be rented out during the summer months. So, back in October, we finally managed to get away for a weekend together.

It was fun catching up. Just like old times. Except we’re much older.

Happy Hour!

Happy Hour!

And that pitcher of delicious margaritas we drank during the Friday happy hour at Dos Locos, had us both feeling a bit, um, sluggish, for most of the day on Saturday. So NOT like old times.

We did eventually get moving and had a fun, laid back, relaxing sort of weekend.

But I’ve gotten ahead of myself…

I drove from my house in Virginia to Diana’s home in Crownsville, Maryland, just outside of Annapolis. She drove from there to Rehoboth. On the way, when we passed this yard art mecca. I was THRILLED when she turned to me and said, “Wanna stop? It’s not like we’re on a schedule.”

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A Real Yard Art Mecca

 

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Me, Browsing (didn’t buy anything)

 

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The place was HUGE.

 

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Sasquatches!

 

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Widest selection of jockeys ever.

From there, we moseyed on to the beach.

Their house.

Their house.

Their house is located just off of Rehoboth Avenue, about six blocks from the waterfront. It has a great sitting porch, above the garage, which we used quite a bit.

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Dolle’s

At my urging (begging!), we stopped at Dolle’s upon arrival. I HAD to have some fresh, hot, caramel popcorn. YUM. Diana, who led a sheltered life, apparently, had never eaten Dolle’s caramel popcorn. How much you want to bet it becomes a regular stop for the family?

It really was a nice, slow-paced, relaxing weekend. Aside from the aforementioned happy hour, that is. We just meanderered about, chatting and catching up on each other’s lives. And enjoying the scenery, which I captured on camera to share later.

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Red Moon, Moon Rising

 

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Puddle Reflection

 

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Marsh at Gordon Pond

 

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Glimpses of Fall Color

 

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Marsh Grass

 

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Gordon Pond

 

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Ancient Indian Cliff Dwellings (Not really, but that’s what I thought it looked like!)

 

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Dos Chicas

 

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Jetty

 

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Looking South

I love, love, love Fall. The light is amazing.

I couldn’t end this post without a selfie, could I?

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Me and Diana… Selfie

Sunday came far too fast. Diana and I decided we should make the Rehoboth trip an annual thing. Looking forward to doing it again in 2014.

But wait, there’s more…

On the way home, we stopped in Milton(?) to visit Peggy & Jim, who adopted Maddie, a former foster dog of mine.

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Maddie and Me

Maddie, formerly known as Lizzie, won the forever home lottery when Peggy and Jim adopted her. They are absolutely delightful people, and perfect dog parents.

All in all, it was a fabulous weekend.

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On a drink purchased en route to Diana’s house.

I am so glad we were able to reconnect. And I really am looking forward to seeing her again soon.

9 thoughts on “Reconnecting with Old Friends

  1. Kathy:

    you are so blessed to have a childhood friend with whom you sort of keep in contact. I can’t imagine you being a bully. You seem so gentle . . .

    a weekend of relaxation, reconnecting and talking about the “ol’ days”

    bob
    Riding the Wet Coast

  2. Thanks, Connie. Rehoboth was certainly lovely. Especially during the off season when it wasn’t overrun by tourists.

  3. Bob,

    I think I have mellowed with age. Diana is one of several childhood friends I am blessed to have in my life. Oddly, she isn’t friends with the other two. Those friends were compartmentalized, I guess. LOL.

    Maintaining friendships takes a little effort, but it sure is worth it.

  4. ShyB, that childhood fault will haunt me for the rest of my days. Hopefully I’ve made up for it, somehow, by living a sort of decent life. I really do wonder about those folks, though.

  5. Fun. So good to be able to keep in touch for all of these years.

    I love, love, love the puddle picture with the reflections of the pink sky, but then the selfie of you too is pretty darn cute too.

    Thanks for posting.

  6. The stupid phone lost half of my comment, which said I really like the puddle pic, too. Reflections suck me in, but are often hard to capture. I’m glad you enjoyed it, too.

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