Category: Wellness

I don’t know about you, but I can’t help but wonder if the Universe (or God) has decided that humanity needs a wake-up call. I mean, shit is pretty unreal right now. It’s almost like The Stand, a book by Stephen King, in real life. For serious.

If you haven’t read The Stand, you can watch it as a made-for TV miniseries. In the book, a virus that’s 99.4% communicable escapes and wipes out 99.4% of the US population. Presumably, the rest of the world was similarly impacted, but the book didn’t go into that. It was set in the US. A lot of people died, but the focus was on the survivors. Some were drawn to good and some were drawn to evil. The good folk gathered in Boulder, Colorado and the bad went to Las Vegas. Of course, there was a showdown.

Anyhoo… this virus does not appear to be as dangerous, but there are still a lot of unknowns. Hunkering down and isolating ourselves from each other really does seem to be the best defense. But people aren’t heeding the warnings and advice. So chances are that things are going to get a lot worse before they get better.

Rather than dwell on any of it, I’m trying to make the most of the situation. I am using this time to paint the basement. Painting is a very meditative task for me. There’s not a whole lot of thinking involved. Plus, I get to listen to music and sing as I paint.

I am generating lots of positive energy as I paint and sing. One can only absorb so much positivity, right? All the excess positive energy is flowing freely into the universe. To be used however, whenever, or by whoever. If every single person in the world who is able chose to do something similarly positive, think of all the positive energy that would be floating freely through the atmosphere.

Yes, I know that sounds crazy. BUT… if there’s one thing I have learned over the past few years, it is this… positivity, as in a positive outlook/attitude, goes a very long way.

Positive offsets negative. Always.

Worrying about the virus, what’s going to happen, how/when/if humanity will recover, etc., generates negative energy.

Each and every one of us has a choice. I choose to be positive. I’m going to keep painting and singing and hoping for the best. I’ll be responsible and stay sequestered away until this blows over. Or, until things get so bad that home is no longer a safe place to be. 

Chances are good that it will not come to that, but no one knows what is in store for us. Really.

So, stop worrying. Think about happier times. The world is what each and every one of us make it to be. If you choose to worry, life will be tense. If you choose to let go and let God, or the Universe, or whatever you want to call it, proceed to the next level, I’ll see you there.

Here are a couple of random happy pics that I came across while searching for a post-appropriate image. Both really warmed my heart.

Think happy thoughts, people. We will get through this.

I started this post in early February. That doesn’t sound all that long ago, but, in some ways, it feels like a lifetime. It was a Sunday. I remember that only because it’s the same day I heard this quote:

The greatest moments of your life are the most difficult ones. That’s the only time you learn.

• — Mandy Patinkin (CBS Sunday Morning, 2 Feb2020)

Entering and formatting the quote is as far as I got with that draft. Until today.

When I started this post, I was still actively working and quite stressed-out. I feel much better these days, in many ways, but know I still have work to do.

Even I am amazed that I am not ready to go back to doing my job. It’s really a very stressful role. Hopefully, I can figure out how to return to that position, IF the position is even still there.

Whatever. I am still working on me. Continuing the slow process of real, serious introspection and applying the lessons I have learned and continue to learn every single day.

It’s been interesting, really. I have been learning a lot and am confident I’ll be a better person when all is said and done. I just wish I had some idea when “done” will be.

Because I am not currently on the job, it is difficult to know if I am recovering and, if I am, how to quantify how much I am improving. That measurement isn’t as important to me personally as it is to my employer. So far, there is no date for my projected return to work. The only thing I do know is that once I am cleared to return to work, I need to give my employer two weeks notice before I can actually resume my duties. I use the term “resume” loosely as there’s no guarantee I’ll be able to return to the same role. I’d only been with my current  employer for nine months, so am not protected under the Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 (FMLA), a US labor law that requires some employers to offer employees job-protected, unpaid leave for qualified medical and/or family reasons.

Basically that means I had to put my job on the line to take time off, which is needed to take care of myself. My job might still be available. I just don’t know if I will be able to do the same job. Or if I will want to. With the current pandemic situation impacting the economy, I don’t know if there will be any job openings when I am ready and able to return to work. But, you know what? I am not worried. I need to get better. This treatment is long overdue.

I continue to see a counselor — his name is Bob — on a regular basis. Next week, I have an appointment with a psychiatrist, who I’ll see in addition to Bob. I have never seen one of them before, so am quite interested to see what they have to say, if they will adjust my medications, etc. (Bob can’t prescribe or assume responsibility for medication management.)

I’ve had issues with depression, off and on, for a little over 30 years. It may even have been longer. I just know that late 1989/early 1990 was the first time I seriously contemplated killing myself. In hindsight, I think that first episode may have been postpartum depression. Or plain, old depression. I mean, my life had just undergone a drastic shift. I was still very young (only 23!), unmarried, knocked up, living with someone that was NOT meant for me. Younger people have done it, I know, and with more than one kid. But I had never so much as babysat or changed a diaper. Not even on a baby doll. Not that I ever had many dolls. LOL. The few I did have only had pull-up pants or undies or something. Nothing as sophisticated as a realistic diaper.

I was 23. So it’s actually a little shy of 30 years. But still. That’s more that HALF of my life. And the first 23 years were a little tumultuous. Not horrible, overall, but there were definitely some major incidents that I may or may not be completely comfortable sharing with the world. That could be what got this all started. (Or, it could be everything else that has gone on in the past five+ years!)

I’ve been taking antidepressants for about one-half or two-thirds of the last 29 years, but never in conjunction with counseling. I did try counseling in the past. I saw one or two different doctors, neither of which was good enough to see through my facade. They took my “I am fine” proclamations at face value and never probed further. My skeletons were hidden VERY well.

Maybe it’s good that the job stress was so intense this year.

I am hopeful. Optimistic, even. This time around, I’m older, more mature, and really ready to exorcise all this shit from my brain and fix whatever is broken. Or at least learn how better to cope with the emotions, anxiety, and stuff that, combined, has me bobbing in this fog of mental incapacitation.

It’s all very weird. Otherwise, I am good. Confident that I am on the right track to figure this all out. Mike and I remain healthy and are keeping our distance from others.

Nothing like social distancing and sheltering in place to enhance the meditative possibilities. I am focused on recovering, and really hoping you-know-what leaves all of my family, friends, loved ones, etc. alone.