Life is all about lessons.
I have learned a lot in recent years, about myself and about the people who surround me. I’ve always known, deep down, that I was put on this Earth for a reason. I have yet to fully figure out what that reason is, but I do think I am on the right path or, at the very least, headed in the right direction.
It hasn’t always been easy. But I have learned from both my mistakes and my successes. One of the year’s most important lessons for me is admitting there are many things over which I have little or no control. Worrying about things to come accomplishes nothing. Harboring negative emotions about past events is just as bad, if not worse.
On the surface, those are very simple truths. But it’s hard not to worry. It can really be difficult to let go of old grudges. To forgive folks for what they have done to you. To stop caring about what other people think and let go of guilt.
Anxiety and depression are simple labels society has put on very complex and personal/individual emotional states. I know a lot of people who deal with anxiety and/or depression. One is almost always associated with the other, and both are usually the result of having experienced some sort of physical or emotional pain.
Which brings me to today’s writing prompt…
WD#3: Where are you still carrying old pain? How can you let it go?
I’m not carrying much old pain. I know how damaging it can be to linger on the past and have learned how to let shit go. Not all of it, but most of it. Some pain is easier to dismiss than others, some harder, and the cleansing process is exhausting.
I think and think and think about stuff all of the time. My mind is always racing. By thinking, I don’t mean puzzling, or carefully considering, or even mulling stuff over. That all sounds far too relaxing. The type of thinking I experience is far more frantic, frenzied, even chaotic. I do not do it intentionally, it just happens. My thoughts are less like a continuous stream of consciousness and more like brief, intermittent, invisible storms.
Processing all of that activity requires a LOT of mental energy. It’s exhausting, really. I know this, but I can’t stop it. That’s just how my brain works. I’m an analyzer. I like to figure weird shit out, usually covertly. In other words, I’m an observer. I take stuff in, consider it from many different angles, until I figure out why things are the way that they are. Why a person acts a certain way. What could have happened to them in the past that makes them do what they do.
We live in a crazy, beautiful, weird, fucked up, magical place. How can I not think about it? Not worrying, mind you, but wondering how things are related. Why did that happen? Why do I act or react a certain way?
The whole process has increased my level of self-awareness tremendously. I now understand more about myself and those around me more than I ever have.
The most important and simultaneously disconcerting thing I have learned is that I can physically feel negative energy. I’m pretty sure I’ve always had that ability, I just never recognized the phenomenon for what it was. Now that I am aware of that ability, which more often than not feels like a curse, I can act and react appropriately.
It sounds crazy, I know. Crazy as in some real wackadoodie kind of shit. So crazy, I hesitate to even admit or try to explain it to others for fear that I’ll be labeled completely insane. But I know it’s real. Knowing it’s real means that when I feel negativity from others, or feel the affect my own negative thoughts, emotions, and memories have on my body, I can act accordingly.
That’s how I have managed to rid myself of lingering emotional pain, which is what I mean when I say I’ve learned how to let shit go.
I am also able to protect myself against new “attacks.” But that’s something I’ll have to explain in some other post. This one has taken me THREE days to complete.
So, dear readers. What do you think? Am I crazy? Am I on the right track?
Another thing I’ve come to realize is that there are lots of people like me out there. Many, if not most, are afraid to talk about stuff like this because it sounds so crazy. I’d really love to know, honestly, what everyone who reads this post thinks about what I’ve said.